Below are some posts from my blog on Amazon related to John and Jeanie Fly. You can read all my posts on Amazon by clicking here. At this time, I am writing a column for Examiner.com, where I take topics of national interest and look at them through the lens of the Law of Attraction. You can go there by clicking here.
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Q & A: Why a novel, The Emotional Scale
Q: You have been a teacher of the Law of Attraction for many years. Why did you decide to write a novel instead of a self-help book?
JW: Well, for one thing many self-help books have recently been written using the Law of Attraction as a basis. But more importantly, people who read metaphysical or spiritual self-help books also want to have fun.
A woman in one of the Abraham seminars asked about reading murder mysteries. Abraham said, “We wouldn’t do it.” This makes sense in terms of the Law of Attraction. Such books basically keep the reader focused on ideas of being a victim, guilt, and punishment—not the most uplifting concepts for most people.
Of course, it depends where you are on the emotional scale, a way Abraham discusses feelings that I find especially helpful as a psychologist. We’re always somewhere on the emotional scale, from the depths of despair all the way up to ecstasy. If one feels in despair and powerless, reading how a murderer was found and punished, can feel great. On the other hand, if life is basically good, reading a story about painful events can bring one down and reinforce negative beliefs.
Q: If the Law of Attraction works, wouldn’t someone at a happier level not find much appeal in a gruesome story?
JW: You’re right. But we often make decisions, through habit or thoughtlessness, that don’t feel good. Someone may like how an author tells a story, or a friend may have recommended the book. Or they may think of themselves as someone who likes mysteries. Of course, even in the most gruesome stories, there are uplifting moments.
Likewise, there are tense moments in John and Jeanie Fly. However, some people won’t connect with John and Jeanie because they’re mostly happy and don’t have a strained relationship. Different books speak to different people. The more we can keep our thoughts on positive things, though, and believe we can have them, the better.
John and Jeanie Fly, as a Love Story
People have commented that the love John and Jeanie have for each other is quite evident in the book. In a way, the book can be seen as a post-marital love story. During the courting phase, lovers try to present the best in themselves and are on the lookout for the best in the other. Unfortunately, this often ends when they get together.
We're taught to find flaws and fix them, a practical approach if you notice a spot on the kitchen floor, but one that can destroy a relationship. People almost always want to please the ones they love, so when they don't, trying to change them mostly results in uncomfortable tension.
When Jeanie and I first got together, she told me (and anyone who would listen) that I was perfect. This seemed foolish--of course I'm not perfect. But, rather than being foolish, I soon realized she was being extremely wise. Jeanie had chosen (she tells me it was easy with me) to only see the positive. Deciding to join her approach, to this day I can tell you with a straight face that Jeanie is perfect.
If there's anything either of us does that bothers the other, we talk about it, and if we can please the other, of course we do. But we go into any such discussion with the attitude, if I have a problem, it's my problem. It's not up to Jeanie to fix my problem for me. Each of us is responsible for our own happiness.
If you find it easy to pull out a list of things you don't like about someone you love, see if you can find solutions without requiring them to change. If you're carrying such a list, it's likely the only responses you have left are nagging or frustration.
Here's a path that might help. Make sure the person knows what you want, and explain as clearly as possible why you want it. If they don't get how important this is to you, let them know how you feel--saying "ouch" is an important form of communication. Then, having communicated these things clearly, stop focusing on that aspect of your partner and start focusing on yourself. There is always a way to get what you want without having to force someone to change.
The only time many of us permit ourselves to have uninhibited love for someone is when we first fall in love and when we're about to lose them. Once you realize there are other solutions besides changing your partner, and you make the decision to only see the best in them, you can have this kind of love every day.